Stacey graduated from LOC in 2021

Stacey took the program seriously and was diligent about overcoming this problem, for himself, his wife, and his 4 kids. It was amazing to see his transformation over time. He graduated 4 months after joining the program, and a year later he informed me that his transformation spoke to him in a way that compels him to help other men overcome porn addiction. 

The timing was perfect because LOC has been growing and needed another coach... a coach who understands both experientially, emotionally, and intellectually. Stacey has all of that and beyond. We are fortunate to have him be a part of the team here at LOC.

A Message from Stacey:

Men, here’s a little snap shot of my first 30 years. A son of two teenagers and my father absent for my life until I was a grown man, I suffered massively from a lack of identity. Especially growing up with a dominantly feminine name, I felt I had no choice but to prove myself as a man to those around me. Although my stepfather was a good military man who took care of me and my mother, we never had a strong father son bond. That bond weakened especially after my half-sister entered the world. From an early age, I felt alone. I was the only Gonzales in my family, and I was met with much scorn anytime I became curious about the Gonzales side of my family. Over time, I learned to hate half of me. That half was filled with intense pursuit of become more of a man than my biological father. However, my home with my mother and stepfather was filled with drinking and no intimacy, and I unconsciously picked up these habits. When I got a little freedom as I got older, I looked to the world to teach me how to be a real man. I was about 10 years old when I was first exposed, but I don’t think the initial exposure hurt me. What did hurt me was not acknowledging all the emotional wounds I was ignoring. As I grew up in a world that became more and more high-tech, it was so much easier to turn to vices when I became insecure of myself as a man. The more I failed and was rejected, the more I succumbed to vices. Little my little, I was giving away my masculine crown. My alcohol addiction had gotten so bad overtime that I went to jail for drinking and driving with my kids in the back seat. This was my rock bottom: my addictions nearly killed me, my kids, and other innocent people. My addictions like porn was robbing me of my masculine spirit, and it nearly cost me everything.

After I found my freedom from porn, I left my blue collared job, earned my masters degree in Christian counseling, started my own business, launched a podcast, and became a full time coach. My wife and I are in an amazing place in our marriage, and our four kids together are thriving. I never could’ve gotten here under the chains of porn addiction.

I don’t know when my time to move on to the next life will come, but when it does, I am going to be ready living in freedom, crowned, and courageous. Stay crowned, men.